One of our family rules is "just show up". That can take on different meanings depending on the context. It might mean showing up physically or being emotionally present for someone.
I have a confession to make...I haven't been showing up. I haven't been showing up for you. It's been about a year and half since I finished my nutrition coaching program and I've been going through the motions of getting my coaching business off the ground, but little else.
There’s so much I want to say and share to help you, but the truth is I’m not exactly sure how to do it. People tell me what I have to offer is so compelling, but I think, “really?” Do people really want or need to hear what I have to say? Really?
It’s taken me some time to get here…but yes, I think there are people who desperately need my help. Part of me even thinks I’ve been selfish for withholding my gifts from you!
So what's stopping me?
Scared of putting myself out there. Scared of what people would think of me. Scared that I wouldn’t be able to help someone that really needed my help. Scared of not being good enough or perfect. I was so scared that I basically paralyzed myself from doing anything.
A friend taught me that perfectionism is actually a sickness that causes undue stress and holds us back from our true potential.
You know what, it’s time to get out of my own way so I can do what I set out to do a long time ago…help other women see that they aren’t crazy. That just because all the tests your doctor ran on you are normal doesn’t mean there isn’t something wrong. To help you find natural solutions that really work to combat stress and irritable bowel syndrome.
So I’m here now. Perfectly imperfect, but willing and able.
Because someone, maybe you, has been looking for a person just like me to help you. You probably don’t care if my writing is smart, fun, and witty. You just need answers, you need some help, and you needed it yesterday.
I help women who can’t seem to find the help they so desperately need from their doctor. Don’t get me wrong here; I’m not doctor bashing. I have a lot of respect for physicians and the care they provide. Modern medicine is an amazing thing! But frankly, there are no modern medical solutions for irritable bowel syndrome. In many ways, I think modern medicine's "solutions" make things worse. There’s no magic pill to make it better. In fact, there’s no way to even definitely diagnose it!
I know how bad it sucks to go to your doctor hoping he or she can help you, only to leave feeling more frustrated than when you came in. Hearing things like “you’re just high strung and need to learn to relax” or “try to eliminate some stress in your life” or…my favorite “well you’re a little bit nuts, so there’s a good chance some of this is in your head”. (That last one was one of my doctors).
My turning point was learning I had an autoimmune disease that there was no treatment for and really no explanation for. I gotta tell you, it made me really mad. Like, so-mad-you-cry kind of mad. But that anger is what spurred me into action. I said, hell no! I’m going to figure this out myself and I will NOT accept this as my fate.
Slowly, I started to educate myself and make some changes. But it starts with choosing yourself. It has to! It is so easy to fall into victim mode and throw your arms up and say, “What can I do? I have this diagnosis or problem and there’s nothing I can about it.”
You have a choice every day. You have a choice every minute of every day!
It’s not always the easiest choice to make, but you have a choice to be the victim or to be your own hero. To be kick-ass or to get your ass kicked. Your choice. Every day.
All choices have consequences, good and bad. First, you have to figure out why it’s important to YOU to feel better and get your health back. It has by a strong reason that you can come back to when the choices get tough. Everybody’s reason why is different. Your why may not be the same as mine. I’ve chosen my path because the situation I was in was so unbearable; there was no other option for me but to change. And that’s what keeps me on the path, knowing that going back to the way things were is not an acceptable reality anymore. I want to feel good EVERY DAY, I want to play with my son; I want to be part of the fun. Not lying around on the couch because I'm too bloated and crampy or too tired to do anything.
Look, I don’t claim to know everything or have all the answers for life’s problems. But I’ve figured out what works and what doesn’t when it comes to managing IBS. I've studied the digestive system and learned how food helps or hurts your body. I know how to dig down deep and get to the root cause of what's causing your illness and figuring out how to correct that.
If you’re ready to take action, I’m here to support you. Hop over to the Coaching page to set up your free strategy session. You have nothing to lose. Isn't it time you started showing up for YOU?
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